I have been told that people keep asking Renee about the dress code for the wedding, so I thought I had better put some info about this on the blog (ie. Renee told me to). My first reaction to this question was "Wear whatever th F%#~ you want", but aparantly that isn't good enough. No, no, no - there are all these rules about weddings that I havn't been educated about. So after a quick google I found
TeamWedding.com, which contains everything you never wanted to know about weddings. For starters I found out that the type of wedding we are having actually has a name. Its called a
"Destination Wedding" and aparantly it's all the rage now.
The following is an exerpt from an
article on destination weddings written by Rebecca Black of
Etiquette Now!:
Destination Wedding Etiquette
Destination weddings have become very popular in the last few years with good reason. We tend to be very busy people with little time to prepare for a huge traditional wedding [yep, that was the idea]. Many destination sites will organize everything for the bride and groom leaving little to do besides to show up and get hitched [yeah, right]. This style of wedding has great appeal, but there are some minuses to balance out some of the pluses. So, as you would with any style of wedding, please think it though thoroughly.
And because destination wedding have become so popular so quickly, etiquette rules have had to move quickly to keep up. However, we shouldn’t just throw all of these traditional rules out the cruise ship window. Some rules still apply.
- Consider your guests and their ability to pay for their travel and lodging expense. [Well we were originally gonna do it in Vegas, so dont complain]
- Mail those ‘Save the Date’ cards well in advance, so your guest can make travel arrangements.[what planet is this lady from, we only sent the invite a month ago]
- The bride and groom are responsible for the lodging of their attendants. [Im not sure what she means by attendents, but I did organise some accomodation]
- Only send invitations to those whom you want to come to your wedding. [so I shouldn't have sent an invite to Amanda Vanstone then?]
- Some family members may be very upset that you chose to marry away from home. As with all relationship building and maintaining, an open line of communication is key. [True dat. Hopefully they will at least be happy that we are getting married and not continuing to live in sin]
- Destination wedding couples can have a reception when they return. [nope, were having it in Thailand]
Note: Because guests have to travel to places they may not have visited before for the destination wedding, it would be best to suggest the dress code for their stay. [so Renee was right there is a rule about this] Most destination weddings seem to be in warm tropical weather locations [this lady is psychic] so these dress codes may be perfect.
- ‘Resort attire’ is a great example of a dress code that you might list. It means good quality summer attire that you would feel comfortable wearing to a golf club or country club. This could include good quality shorts, button and polo shirts, short skirts, sandals, and newish sneakers—no flip-flops, tank tops, t-shirts, or too much skin. [I only know one person that wears country club clothes and he is not coming so this is out of the question]
- ‘Evening resort attire’ is very similar to what we would feel comfortable wearing to a country club in the evening. Slacks and a nice shirt (jacket optional) for men and a dress or nice separates are perfect for women--no sneakers, flip-flops, t-shirts, or shorts. [what's with the country club clothes?]
- ‘Dressy casual’ is slacks with a nice top (for either gender), knee-length skirt with a quality top or a dress that you would wear to a restaurant. Shorts would be fine, but these should not be too short or cut-offs—no t-shirts or flip-flops. [now, this is sounding better - not sure about the no flip-flops rule though. Theyre thongs, by the way, if you dont understand American]
- ‘Cocktail attire’ is usually the basic black dress and a suit for a man. For warmer, just think of that dress in lighter fabrics and you are on your way. [nope Dressy Casual sounds better]
So there it is. We are having a
Destination Wedding and the dress code is
Dressy Casual. Is that clear to everone now?
